Weddings in different cultures have always intrigued me in the traditions they use to tie two (or more at times) people together. I think the symbolisms of the actions taken by the bride and groom in different religions and their meanings say so much about that group of people and their social environment. A bijav in Romani culture is not a required thing but it’s something the Romani people do in order for society to recognize their marriage. “The consecration of a couple’s living together is a mangavipen. Abijav is a social affair… Couples had an official ceremony more or less because of social and economic pressure of the official authorities.” (ROMBASE) At the bijav there is a lot of music and dancing and it’s seen as a huge celebration. While managavipen were the true joining of the couple (kind of like a proposal), with the inner circles of the family, bijavs could have invitations going out to over a hundred guests. A chibalo is chosen by relatives of the couple to perform the ceremony. This shows the tying of intimacy into the ceremony even though there are a lot of guests. It also demonstrates the importance of family and trust, while other religions look for someone who seems to be high in the church or close to God. The rituals performed in the ceremonies vary based on the geographical location of the Romani and what influences non-Romani have had on their culture. In my poem, I am going to use the ritual when the bride and grooms’ wrists are tied together with a red scarf and then brandy is poured into each of their hands for the other to drink. I think I am going to show this ritual from a young girls perspective in my poem.